New PUblications/Lectures How to Talk to an OCD, Courts Beware Lecture Narcissistic/Borderline Couples

 

 

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About the Author

Joan Lachkar, PhD, is a licensed marriage and family therapist in private practice in Encino, California, an affiliate member of the New Center for Psychoanalysis, and author of The Narcissistic/Borderline Couple, How to Talk to a Narcissist, How to Talk to a Borderline, The V-Spot, The Disappearing Male, New Approaches to Marital Therapy, and Common Complaints in Couple Therapy and How to Talk to an Obsessive-Compulsive (2022).  Dr. Lachkar is also a psychohistorian has published numerous papers and articles on marital and political conflict in the Journal of Psychohistory, Frontpage, and Family Security Matters, in addition to presenting a paper on "The Psychopathology of Terrorism" at the Rand Corporation. She can be contacted at jlachkar@aol.com.

1.     COURTS BEWARE ARTICLE (January 2022)

International Journal of Clinical and Experimental Medicine Research (jCEMR)

Hill Publisher Co. New York

. Courts Beware: The Obsessive-Compulsive and Other Personality Disorders

Abstract

This prestation is about love and what happens to love when it goes into the court system.

This is an expansion of my groundbreaking book, The Narcissistic/Borderline Couple where I describe what happens when a narcissist and a borderline join together in a marital bond and do what I refer to as “the dance” (Lachkar, 1992). Aside from this work, it has applicability to all kinds of couples including couples going through divorce, many high conflict personality disorders.

Many practitioners treat patients going through divorce experiencing difficulties with individuals with high personality disorders in legal mediation. This article applies mainly to narcissistic, borderline, and obsessive-compulsive personality disorders and how their primitive defenses get in the way of reaching conflict resolution. Therapists and legal officials are continually perplexed as to why people continue to battle to the bitter end to get their demands met even to the extent of destruction to self and others (spouse, children, family, career, reputation) until they achieve their final goal―revenge.

Keywords: Narcissist, borderline, obsessive compulsive, histrionic, The V-spot, primitive defenses, mediation, marital therapy. psychodynamics, primitive defenses and cross-culture.[*]

2.     How to Talk to an Obsessive-Compulsive (OCD. Book in progress (2022).  E-Books, International Psychotherapy Institute. Jason Aronson. New York

This book is an outcome of Dr. Lachkar’s groundbreaking book, The Narcissistic/Borderline Couple.  Followed by How to Talk to a Narcissist and How to Talk to a Borderline.  Lurking in the shadows is the pandemic which has brought our attention to the obsessive-compulsive personality disorder (OCPD) and reacquaints us with familiar partners they often choose. The demand of the pandemic is very much in concert with the OCD’s preoccupation with cleanliness and his/her obsessive-compulsive behaviors.  “Wear Masks,!” Wash your hand!” Don’t touch anyone for fear of contamination!” This book takes into consideration the OCD is not a clear and concise entity as their dynamics can seep over into other personality disorders. Outlined are many different kinds of OCDS and the kinds of partners they choose (often a histrionic). Included are various treatment approaches and techniques. psychodynamics and two special languages I originated suitable to meet the self object and splitting needs for the OCPD. Additionally, I reintroduce my concept of the V-spot, integrate listening techniques and offer an example of an initial session.

Narcissistic/Borderline Couples Presentation Webinar lecture (12/5/2021,) international  Journal of Clinical and Experimental Medicine Research (JCEMR_[*]

 

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