Thursday, August 17, 2017

Romantic Love, Intimacy and Sexuality "The Dance of the Couple"

Workshop for Couples

On-Going Couples Workshop
Romantic Love, Intimacy and Sexuality
"The Dance of the Couple"


A Couples Workshop (individuals welcome)
"Romantic Love" is the single greatest energy system in the Western psyche. In our culture it is the arena in which men and women seek meaning, transcendence, wholeness and ecstasy.”  Robert A. Johnson, We (p. xi)

The “Dance of the Couple”
Saturday, October 7, 2017, 8:30 AM-12:30 PM
Joan Jutta Lachkar, Ph.D. and Richard Seigle, M.D.
$100 Dollars per Couple ($50.00 FOR SINGLE)

This workshop explores healthy romantic love and intimacy and how living with people with personality disorders (narcissist, borderline) can destroy its capacity. It offers specific approaches and techniques to explain the psychodynamics of the couple. It also explores how and why couples stay in painful, conflictual, destructive, never ending, relationships, traumatic bonding or what Dr. Lachkar refers to as “The Dance” (how one partner projects a negative feeling onto the other and how the other then identifies or over-identifies with it). This workshop is based on numerous articles and books on treatment of the narcissistic personality disorder particularly as it affects interpersonal love relations. Even though this workshop focuses mainly on narcissism, the narcissistic does not live alone but overlaps with many other personality disorders. Much has been written about narcissism, addressing not only its theoretical aspects, the psychodynamics and defense mechanisms within the spectrum of various kinds of narcissists. But few have addressed how to actually communicate with one and how their defenses destroy the capacity to maintain an intimate loving relationship.
This workshop is suitable for couples or half couples willing to explore aspects of intimacy, communication, and mindfulness. We then explore common complaints that create conflict in couples and their resolution.

Dr. Jutta Lachkar is a licensed Marriage and Family therapist in private practice in Sherman Oaks, California, an affiliate member for the New Center for Psychoanalysis, is the author of such ground breaking books as The Narcissistic/Borderline Couple:  Psychoanalytic Perspective on MaritalTreatment, How to Talk to a NarcissistHow to Talk to a Borderline, Courts Beware of the Borderline  and the Disappearing Male. This workshop is based on Dr. Lachkar's twenty-five years of clinical experience and many theoretical perspectives including classical psychoanalysis, self-psychology, ego psychology, objective relations, attachment theory, and contemporary theorists.
Joan Jutta Lachkar, Ph.D. is a licensed Marriage and Family therapist in private practice in Sherman Oaks, California, is an affiliate member for the New Center for Psychoanalysis, is the author of such ground breaking books as, The Narcissistic/Borderline Couple:  Psychoanalytic Perspective on Marital Treatment, How to Talk to a NarcissistHow to Talk to a Borderline: Common Complaints that Bring Couples in Treatment, Treating the Emotional Abuse of High-Functioning Women, The V-Spot, The Disappearing Male, and Courts Beware of the Borderline: Implications for Mediation (in process). Dr. Lachkar is also a psychohistorian has published numerous papers and articles on marital and political conflict in addition as a classically trained ballet dancer and performer treats many individuals in the entertainment industry. www.joanlachkarphd.com

Richard Seigle, M.D., has worked with individuals and couples for over 40 years.  His background includes physical, spiritual and psychological modalities.  

For Further Information Please Contact:
Joan Jutta Lachkar, Ph.D.
818 290 3390 (office)
310 413 9593 (cell)
Romantic Love, Intimacy and Sexuality
The Dance of the Couple
Workshop Schedule  
Saturday, October 7, 2017
8:00 - 8:25                    Registration and Continental Breakfast
8:30 - 9:00                    Welcome and Introductory Comments
                                    Ground Rules / Group Introductions
9:00 - 10:15                 Defining Couple Therapy          
                                    Defining the Narcissist His/her Majesty the Narcissist
Different Types of Narcissist (Pathological, Malignant, Antisocial, Depressive, OCD, Passive-Aggressive (The “Poor Me” Victim, the Artist, the Cross-Cultural)      
10:15 - 10:30                Coffee Break
10:30 - 12:00                The Dance, the Bond and the Drama of the Couple
Why People Stay Bonded to Painful Relationships
·        Psychodynamics of the Couple (shame vs. guilt, envy vs. jealousy etc.)
·        Communication Techniques –
·        Language of Empathology
·        How to Listen (or not listen)
·        Case/Role Play/Group Exercise           
12:00-12-30                  Tavistock Method/Closing Thoughts


Monday, June 26, 2017

A Couples Workshop(Love, Intimacy and Romantic Love

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On-Going Couples Group

Romantic Love is the single greatest energy system in the Western psyche. In our culture,…it is the arena in which men and women seek meaning, transcendence, wholeness and ecstasy.”  Robert A. Johnson, We (p. xi)

The “Dance of the Couple”

A Couples Workshop (individuals welcome) Sherman Oaks
Saturday, July 15, 2017, 8:30 AM-12:30 PM
Joan Jutta Lachkar, Ph.D. and Richard Seigle, M.D.

This workshop explores healthy romantic love and intimacy and how living with people with personality disorders (narcissist, borderline) can destroy its capacity. It offers specific approaches and techniques to explain the psychodynamics of the couple. It also explores how and why couples stay in painful, conflictual, destructive, never ending, relationships, traumatic bonding or what Dr. Lachkar refers to as “The Dance” (how one partner projects a negative feeling onto the other and how the other then identifies or over-identifies with it). This workshop is based on numerous articles and books on treatment of the narcissistic personality disorder particularly as it affects interpersonal love relations. Even though this workshop focuses mainly on narcissism, the narcissistic does not live alone but overlaps with many other personality disorders. Much has been written about narcissism, addressing not only its theoretical aspects, the psychodynamics and defense mechanisms within the spectrum of various kinds of narcissists. But few have addressed how to actually communicate with one and how their defenses destroy the capacity to maintain an intimate loving relationship.
This workshop is suitable for couples or half couples willing to explore aspects of intimacy, communication, and mindfulness. We then explore common complaints that create conflict in couples and their resolution.

Joan Jutta Lachkar, Ph.D. is a licensed Marriage and Family therapist in private practice in Sherman Oaks, California, an affiliate member for the New Center for Psychoanalysis, is the author of The Narcissistic/Borderline Couple:  Psychoanalytic Perspective on Marital Treatment, The Many Faces of Abuse: Treating the Emotional Abuse of High-Functioning Women, The V-Spot, How to Talk to a Narcissist,  How to Talk to a Borderline, and the Disappearing Male, and New Approach to Marital Therapy. The most recent publication in process is Courts Beware of the Borderline: Implication  for Mediation.  This workshop is based on Dr. Lachkar's twenty-five years of clinical experience including groundbreaking articles and books on couple’s therapy incorporating many theoretical perspectives including classical psychoanalysis, self-psychology, ego psychology, objective relations, attachment theory, and contemporary theorists.

Richard Seigle, M.D., has worked with individuals and couples for over 40 years.  His background includes physical, spiritual and psychological modalities.  Currently, Richard lives mindfully in Joshua Tree, CA.
$100.00 per couple, $50.00 per single
Name__________________________________________________________________________

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City________________________­­­­­­­­­­­­­­__________­_________State_________Zip_________________

Email: _______________________________________Phone____________________________­_

Credit Card/Check/Money Order made out to Joan Lachkar, Ph.D.
Credit Card (M/C, Visa, Amer. Exp) #__________________________________________
Exp. Date___________________________Code__________

 For Further Information Please contact:
Joan Jutta Lachkar, Ph.D.
818 290 3390 (office)
310 413 9593 (cell)
INTIMACY AND ROMANTIC LOVE 
The Dance of the Couple

Workshop Schedule.  
Saturday,July 15,
 2017
8:00 - 8:25                    Registration and Continental Breakfast
8:30 - 9:00                    Welcome and Introductory Comments
                                    Ground Rules / Group Introductions
9:00 - 10:15                  Defining Couple Therapy          
                                    Defining the Narcissist His/Her Majesty the Narcissist
Different Types of Narcissist (Pathological, Malignant, Antisocial, Depressive, OCD, Passive-Aggressive (The “Poor Me” Victim, The Artist, the Cross-Cultural)      
10:15 - 10:30                Coffee Break
10:30 - 12:00                The Dance, the Bond and the Drama of the Couple
Why People Stay Bonded to Painful Relationships
                                    Psychodynamics of the Couple (shame vs. guilt, envy vs. jealousy etc.)
                                    Communication Techniques –
Language of Empathology
How to Listen (or not listen)
Case/Role Play/Group Exercise           
12:00-12-30                  Tavistock Method/Closing Thoughts
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Wednesday, May 24, 2017

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INTIMACY, ROMANTIC LOVE AND SEXUALITY
Couples Workshop

Romantic Love is the single greatest energy system in the Western psyche. In our culture,…it is the arena in which men and women seek meaning, transcendence, wholeness and ecstasy.”  Robert A. Johnson, We (p. xi)

The “Dance of the Couple”

A Couples Workshop (individuals welcome) Sherman Oaks
Saturday, July 1st, 2017, 8:30 AM-12:30 PM
Joan Jutta Lachkar, Ph.D. and Richard Seigle, M.D.

This workshop explores healthy romantic love and intimacy and how living with people with personality disorders (narcissist, borderline) can destroy its capacity. It offers specific approaches and techniques to explain the psychodynamics of the couple. It also explores how and why couples stay in painful, conflictual, destructive, never ending, relationships, traumatic bonding or what Dr. Lachkar refers to as “The Dance” (how one partner projects a negative feeling onto the other and how the other then identifies or over-identifies with it). This workshop is based on numerous articles and books on treatment of the narcissistic personality disorder particularly as it affects interpersonal love relations. Even though this workshop focuses mainly on narcissism, the narcissistic does not live alone but overlaps with many other personality disorders. Much has been written about narcissism, addressing not only its theoretical aspects, the psychodynamics and defense mechanisms within the spectrum of various kinds of narcissists. But few have addressed how to actually communicate with one and how their defenses destroy the capacity to maintain an intimate loving relationship. This workshop is suitable for couples or half couples willing to explore aspects of intimacy, communication, and mindfulness. We then explore common complaints that create conflict in couples and their resolution.

Joan Jutta Lachkar, Ph.D. is a licensed Marriage and Family therapist in private practice in Sherman Oaks, California, an affiliate member for the New Center for Psychoanalysis, is the author of The Narcissistic/Borderline Couple:  Psychoanalytic Perspective on Marital Treatment, The Many Faces of Abuse: Treating the Emotional Abuse of High-Functioning Women, The V-Spot, How to Talk to a Narcissist,  How to Talk to a Borderline, and the Disappearing Male, and New Approach to Marital Therapy. This workshop is based on Dr. Lachkar's twenty-five years of clinical experience including groundbreaking articles and books on couple’s therapy and many theoretical perspectives including classical psychoanalysis, self-psychology, ego psychology, objective relations, attachment theory, and contemporary theorists.

Richard Seigle, M.D., has worked with individuals and couples for over 40 years.  His background includes physical, spiritual and psychological modalities.  Currently, Richard lives mindfully in Joshua Tree, CA.

$100.00 per couple, $50.00 per single 
Name__________________________________________________________________________

Address______________________________________­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­__________________________________

City________________________­­­­­­­­­­­­­­__________­_________State_________Zip_________________

Email: _______________________________________Phone____________________________­_

Credit Card/Check/Money Order made out to Joan Lachkar, Ph.D.
Credit Card (M/C, Visa, Amer. Exp) #__________________________________________
Exp. Date___________________________Code__________

 For Further Information Please contact:
Joan Jutta Lachkar, Ph.D.
818 290 3390 (office)
310 413 9593 (cell)
INTIMACY, ROMANTIC LOVE AND SEXUALITY 
"The Dance of the Couple"

Workshop Schedule.  
Saturday,July 1st 2017
8:00 - 8:25                    Registration and Continental Breakfast
8:30 - 9:00                    Welcome and Introductory Comments
                                     Ground Rules / Group Introductions
9:00 - 10:15                  Defining Couple Therapy          
                                     Defining the Narcissist His/Her Majesty the Narcissist
                                     Different Types of Narcissist (Pathological, Malignant, Antisocial, Depressive, OCD,   
                                     Passive-Aggressive (The “Poor Me” Victim, The Artist, the Cross-Cultural)     
10:15 - 10:30                Coffee Break
10:30 - 12:00                The Dance, the Bond and the Drama of the Couple
Why People Stay Bonded to Painful Relationships
                                    Psychodynamics of the Couple (shame vs. guilt, envy vs. jealousy etc.)
                                    Communication Techniques –
Language of Empathology
How to Listen (or not listen)
Case/Role Play/Group Exercise           
12:00-12-30                  Tavistock Method/Closing Thoughts

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Thursday, February 23, 2017

Couples Workshop How to Talk to a Narcissist, Sat. March 18, 2017 (first one no charge)





On-Going Couples Group
INTIMACY, ROMANTIC LOVE AND SEXUALITY

 Romantic Love is the single greatest energy system in the Western psyche. In our culture,…it is the arena in which men and women seek meaning, transcendence, wholeness and ecstasy.”  Robert A. Johnson, We (p. xi)
The “Dance of the Couple”

A Couples Workshop (individuals welcome) Sherman Oaks, CA
Saturday, July 1st,, 2017, 8:30 AM-12:30 PM
Joan Jutta Lachkar, Ph.D. and Richard Seigle, M.D.

This workshop explores healthy romantic love and intimacy and how living with a narcissist can destroy its capacity. It offers specific approaches and techniques to explain the psychodynamics of the couple. It also explores how and why couples stay in painful, conflictual, destructive, never ending, relationships, traumatic bonding or what Dr. Lachkar refers to as “The Dance” (how one partner projects a negative feeling onto the other and how the other then identifies or over-identifies with it). This workshop is based on numerous articles and books on treatment of the narcissistic personality disorder particularly as it affects  interpersonal love relations. Even though this workshop focuses mainly on narcissism, the narcissistic does not live alone but overlaps with many other personality disorders. Much has been written about narcissism, addressing not only its theoretical aspects, the psychodynamics and defense mechanisms within the spectrum of various kinds of narcissists. But few have addressed how to actually communicate with one and how their defenses destroy the capacity to maintain an intimate loving relationship.This workshop is suitable for couples or half couples willing to explore aspects of intimacy, communication, and mindfulness. We then explore common complaints that create conflict in couples and their resolution.


Joan Jutta Lachkar, Ph.D. is a licensed Marriage and Family therapist in private practice in Sherman Oaks, California, an affiliate member for the New Center for Psychoanalysis, is the author of The Narcissistic/Borderline Couple:  Psychoanalytic Perspective on Marital Treatment, The Many Faces of Abuse: Treating the Emotional Abuse of High-Functioning Women, The V-Spot, How to Talk to a Narcissist,  How to Talk to a Borderline, and the Disappearing Male, and New Approach to Marital Therapy. This workshop is based on Dr. Lachkar's twenty-five years of clinical experience including groundbreaking articles and books on couple’s therapy and many theoretical perspectives including classical psychoanalysis, self-psychology, ego psychology, objective relations, attachment theory, and contemporary theorists.

Richard Seigle, M.D., has worked with individuals and couples for over 40 years.  His background includes physical, spiritual and psychological modalities.  Currently, Richard lives mindfully in Joshua Tree, CA.

$100.00 per couple, $50.00 per single (sliding scale available)

Name__________________________________________________________________________

Address______________________________________­­­­­­­­­­­­­­­__________________________________

City________________________­­­­­­­­­­­­­­__________­_________State_________Zip_________________

Email: _______________________________________Phone____________________________­_

Credit Card/Check/Money Order made out to Joan Lachkar, Ph.D.
Credit Card (M/C, Visa, Amer. Exp) #__________________________________________
Exp. Date___________________________Code__________

 For Further Information Please contact:
Joan Jutta Lachkar, Ph.D.
818 290 3390 (office)
310 413 9593 (cell)

INTIMACY, ROMANTIC LOVE AND SEXUALITY -
" The Dance of the Couple"
Workshop Schedule
CONTENTS: His Majesty the Narcissist. The Pathological Narcissist. The Malignant Narcissist. The Antisocial Narcissist. The Depressive Narcissist. The Obsessive-Compulsive Narcissist. The Passive-aggressive. The Narcissist the Artist. The Cross-cultural Narcissist.  
Saturday, July 1st, 2017
8:00 - 8:25                    Registration and Continental Breakfast
8:30 - 9:00                   Welcome and Introductory Comments
                                    Ground Rules / Group Introductions
9:00 - 10:15                 Defining Couple Therapy          
                                    Defining the Narcissist His/Her Majesty the Narcissist
Different Types of Narcissist (Pathological, Malignant, Antisocial, Depressive, OCD, Passive-Aggressive (The “Poor Me” Victim, The Artist, the Cross-Cultural)      
10:15 - 10:30                Coffee Break
10:30 - 12:00                 The Dance, the Bond and the Drama of the Couple
Why People Stay Bonded to Painful Relationships
                                       Psychodynamics of the Couple (shame vs. guilt, envy vs. jealousy etc.)
                                       Communication Techniques 
Language of Empathology
How to Listen (or not listen)
Case/Role Play/Group Exercise           
12:00-12-30                   Tavistock Method/Closing Thoughts




Couples Workshop How to Talk to a Narcissist, Sat. March 18th, 2017 (no charge first workshop)