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Tuesday, January 28, 2020
The Narcissistic/Borderline Couple Video
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Saturday, January 18, 2020
The Art of Listening or Not Listening, How to Talk to a Narcissist
Welcome to the Art of Listening!
Today we live in a narcissistic society. Everything is me, me, me! Everyone wants their voices to be heard. We all want to talk, but very few want to listen. As analysts, we listen beyond the norm, or what Theodore Reik refers to as “listening with the ‘third ear.’” So how do we listen? Or not listen. Since writing my first edition of How to Talk to a Narcissist, I have expanded the narcissistic personality into eight different types of narcissists. Like many other disorders they are not clear and concise entities and do seep over into other personality disorders. Then I started to ask now that we have all these variations how do we “talk” to them.? Do we just keep them in a chapter and let them fight among themselves? After writing the 2nd edition I realized that talking is not enough. Someone has to “listen.” But what do we listen to or listen for? As almost every couple therapist can attest to most of time they are about complaints! The narcissist will complain about everything nothing is good enough or perfect enough, whereas the borderline will complain about being attacked. In this 2nd edition I have expanded beyond how to “talk: to describe eight different way to listen e.g., “objective listening,” “subjective listening,” listening with the third ear” (beyond the words), when “not to listen” (when person is evacuating). The beauty of analytic work is the process of sorting out and weighing the real from the not real, the objective from the subjective, and the reality-based from the intersubjective.'
How to Talk to a Narcissist, 2nd Edition
The Narcissistic/Borderline Couple
Common Complaints that Bring Couples into Treatment
The Disappearing Male
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Today we live in a narcissistic society. Everything is me, me, me! Everyone wants their voices to be heard. We all want to talk, but very few want to listen. As analysts, we listen beyond the norm, or what Theodore Reik refers to as “listening with the ‘third ear.’” So how do we listen? Or not listen. Since writing my first edition of How to Talk to a Narcissist, I have expanded the narcissistic personality into eight different types of narcissists. Like many other disorders they are not clear and concise entities and do seep over into other personality disorders. Then I started to ask now that we have all these variations how do we “talk” to them.? Do we just keep them in a chapter and let them fight among themselves? After writing the 2nd edition I realized that talking is not enough. Someone has to “listen.” But what do we listen to or listen for? As almost every couple therapist can attest to most of time they are about complaints! The narcissist will complain about everything nothing is good enough or perfect enough, whereas the borderline will complain about being attacked. In this 2nd edition I have expanded beyond how to “talk: to describe eight different way to listen e.g., “objective listening,” “subjective listening,” listening with the third ear” (beyond the words), when “not to listen” (when person is evacuating). The beauty of analytic work is the process of sorting out and weighing the real from the not real, the objective from the subjective, and the reality-based from the intersubjective.'
How to Talk to a Narcissist, 2nd Edition
The Narcissistic/Borderline Couple
Common Complaints that Bring Couples into Treatment
The Disappearing Male
View More Lachkar Books, Amazon.com
Monday, January 6, 2020
How to Talk to a Narcissisr, 2nd Edition
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How to Talk to a Narcissist, 2nd Ed
By
Joan Jutta Lachkar
Much has been written about narcissism, addressing not
only its theoretical aspects, its psychodynamics and defense mechanisms within
the spectrum of various kinds of narcissists. Yet, little
if anything has been
written about how to communicate with one, or what Lachkar
refers to as the “Language of Empathology.” This book focuses
on the theoretical aspects, the psychodynamics, defense mechanisms within
the spectrum of various kinds of narcissism. This is a practical guide that focuses
on specific communication
styles, as it introduces a new language. The
Language of Empathology in addressing patients with narcissistic pathology
and the The Language of Dialectics for the borderline - a common
partner they often choose.
How to Talk to a Narcissist is designed to be a guide
useful to both beginning
and seasoned practitioners. The book
is recommended to all clinicians
treating individuals, couples, groups, within the scope of various narcissistic personality
disorders. The
book has many applications, including use as
a textbook for
universities, clinics, graduate courses, and analytic
training institutes. People in business, partnerships, commercial sales, and human resources will also
find the approach
to communicating with a narcissist
most valuable.
CONTENTS: His Majesty the Narcissist. The Pathological
Narcissist. The Malignant Narcissist. The Antisocial Narcissist.
The Depressive Narcissist. The Obsessive-Compulsive Narcissist. The
Passive-aggressive: The “Poor Me” Victim. The Narcissist
the Artist. Recapitulation
and Closing Thoughts.
Also by Joan Jutta Lachkar
The
Narcissistic / Borderline Couple
How to Talk to a Narcississt, 2nd Edition
Today we live in
narcissistic society everything is l about me, me and me. How do you know you are in the presence of a
narcissist? All he talks about is himself
Everyone wants their voices to be heard. They all
want to talk but no one wants to listen.
As an analyst I have learned how to listen beyond the “normal.” “So how
do we not only talk to each other let alone how do we listen? Or
not listen. This extends to all
aspects of interpersonal relationships not only marital partner but family, friends,,relatives, co-workers and yes even our colleagues. Today
things complicated living in the digital age of social mediate, emails,
texting, Facebook, Instragram of course Trumps “Twitter.”
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